Bringing hearts and souls together, breaking down walls, releasing old wounds, shining our true selves, inviting in soul family.
- Assistance for family gatherings and events
- Opens the heart to forgiveness of self and others
- Helps you to become aware and then dissolve old beliefs, patterns, and perceptions
- Assists you to let go of defenses and barriers, and opens the way to true heart connections
- Helps you to see others with pure eyes and a compassionate heart
- Portal to true heart-felt and meaningful connections
- Connection to soul family and spirit guides
- Helps you to discard old coping patterns such as emotional eating or similar destructive patterns of distraction when faced with family wounds
- Curiosity to learn about our friends and family and connect in new and deeper ways
- Letting the inner child free and the playful adult out
- To meet family and loved ones at a heart level and actually finally truly get to know them in a deep soul way; no more superficial conversations but truth.
- To see one another now with compassion, fascination, and intrigue.
- Let go of the wounds and cobwebs hiding your heart. Move past your wounds and growing pains; embrace them as part of who you are; amazing.
To see through others eyes and learn how their journey was for them. Only when we see past our wounds and distorted perceptions can we truly ‘see’ the person in front of us. And when you do this in the presence of a loved one, you open the door for them to see you.
Be the person who shines love now and in doing so allows others to shine also.
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”
― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
How Family Gathering can assist you:
I created this remedy just shy of Christmas on December 22nd 2016. It was a perfect day for creating healing remedies; the day after the Winter Solstice and the sun was breaking through the cold winter air.
Christmas time can be tough for many of us, a time when families gather and old wounds surface. We often struggle to be present in the moment as scars from our childhood pain us. We struggle to see through the misperceptions created from our youth.
We fail to see ourselves as we are now, strong adults with free hearts as we tumble back into old ways, self-doubt, strong emotions, feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, worry, and our crutches such as anger, defensiveness, invisible walls, frosty conversations, food, alcohol and more. We don’t let our loved ones actually see us for who we are, for fear that we are what we deep down believe.
Let your wounds go, focus on now, connection, family, and love. See people as doing their best. Let the past go, make the journey, the experiences, the insight and the lessons count.
This remedy is not only for Christmas time, but any time that we are around a lot of people or family. It helps us to create healthy boundaries, while also dropping our defensive walls ready to truly connect with our loved ones from a heart space. In allowing ourselves to shine in our truth and whole being, so we allow others.
Haven’t you ever come away from a gathering wondering why you were not yourself? Wanting so badly to connect to others with the whole of who you are yet afraid to do so? Tired from engaging in meaningless chatter that never really connected you to the heart and passions of others? Do you actually know the soul depth of your family and close friends?
So many of us are afraid to connect in a truly open, vulnerable and honest way for fear of somehow falling short. Family Gathering is a remedy to assist you be who you are, free from self-doubt and the story that we have built in our minds about our failings and short fallings….
Family Gathering helps you to connect in an honest and authentic way and in doing so will help create that same space for others.
We are all on a journey, that teaches us so much. AND often this journey gives us each a unique and different perception of how we view the world.
This remedy is made from wild winter gorse flowers, winter beech buds, wild holly, rushes (we also call these reeds), and fir, and is energised using selenite, rose quartz, amethyst and an angel feather that found its way on my gathering path.
The journey with this remedy:
I spent a lot of time journeying with the remedy before I felt ready to write about it. In many ways I am still unravelling all that this little one does as I feel it is far above and beyond what the initial calling was.
As a sensitive person, Christmas and family gathering times are quite emotionally overwhelming for me. I love nothing more that spending time with my loved ones yet it is also a time when I am feeling so much from people and the world that I quite simply short-circuit. I am feeling the excitement and anxiety, the bubbles of energy from so many people, the wounds that I carry in my beliefs and perceptions about myself, as well as picking up on all these from others.
This remedy is made with a heart that wishes so strongly that everyone could just stop for a moment when in the midst of a chaotic family event and just breathe. Breathe in self-love and belief, breathe in calm and peace, breathe in love for all that surround you, find the heart-strings that connect us all to one another, and find within the eyes that see purely into the hearts of one another.
Family and friends are special, we are all here in this time and space, connected to one another for a reason. Imagine if we could all let go our walls and defenses and felt safe to connect completely, confident in ourselves to let our vulnerabilities and differences shine. Imagine the depths of the conversations then, the soul stories shared, the difference of opinion granted full permission to add to the diversity of how we all see life.
We didn’t all come here to agree but to shake up something within each of us and grow our experiences in life. Imagine truly getting to know your aunt or uncle, grandfather or grandmother, niece, child, or cousin. We all see life through a unique lens, coloured in with the individuality of our being. Family is our greatest gift, master, and lesson. If we could only get over ourselves and our insecurities we could allow in some truly magical lessons; positive and negative.
Once you start to follow your path of self belief no one can rattle you; Family Gathering is a remedy developed to assist just this. To allow you to feel the core of your essence and being in the midst of friends, family, and large gatherings.
The wounded child:
Family Gathering is also about the wounded child, and allowing the playful adult to be themselves once more when at a family event – with no more triggers.
Every Christmas people have all sorts of stuff come up for them; old wounds, old hurts, old stories, old trauma, old insecurities. It is like the record is broken and stuck somewhere in the time of “back to the future”. All these little things play out again and again, only even further intensified by how we all play the victim story in our heads, and how we all then interact with one another.
It’s time to move through these growing pains; a bit like the metamorphosis of a butterfly can you allow the inner child grow into the joy-filled playful and carefree adult in the presence of your family peers? Become your true self. It is not a case of forgetting the past, but emerging from it.
Often when we regroup with family we want to ‘show’ them who we have become: the job, the status, the car, the clothes, the body, the accomplishments. We want to be seen for all this.
Yet ask yourself, if you are still carrying the old wounds of self-doubt and have not acknowledged your whole true self, how can you expect someone to truly see you? The other stuff doesn’t truly matter, what we actually want is to be seen as a person; yet we cannot be seen by others if we do not dare to be our true selves?
“Whatever is rejected from the self, appears in the world as an event.”
― C.G. Jung
We cannot have truly enjoyable and meaningful connections if we do not move past the superficial into the true depths of who we are. Do we really care about what car someone else is driving as much as to learn about what makes this other person tick? Do you actually know anything about your family? What they really do, what they love, their fears and triumphs? Sometimes it takes you being the first person to engage…..
Family gathering also encourages us to be responsible for our own feelings and emotions and to discard what no longer serves us. Have you ever stopped to think about why you might be angry with someone? Just what is this grudge or chip that you are still carrying? Have you ever considered their experience? Have you ever pondered that your annoyance at them may actually be about you and some part of yourself that requires exploring? Have you ever opened your eyes to see others as on their journey too? Doing the best that they can; out to learn, grow, experience and also f**k it up just as we are?
Family aren’t perfect….. if we can love and accept them as they are, it doesn’t mean that we have to agree with everything that they do and say. If we love and and accept ourselves as we are we shouldn’t worry if others don’t agree with everything that we do and say… only you know your truth; but you must be honest with yourself also!
“When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him. In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.”
― Albert Camus
When we are children we have this pure childlike connection to our elders. Then as we grow up somehow we fail to grow this relationship. We get busy, we build walls, we don’t spend time developing a relationship with our elders that opens the door to so much growth and learning. If only I could have that time now with my grandparents… make the most of time; it is very precious.
True heart-felt connection is the door that opens to the soul of one another….
Soul family and Spirit Guides:
An unexpected gift from this remedy was to open my heart to connecting with family and guides in the invisible as well as the physical realms. This may be something that calls to you also….I am still exploring this and as ever I am aware that my connection to source is more about me than them. They are always there but am I always listening? We have to juggle life in the real world and distractions are all around us.
I have been drawn intuitively to this remedy a lot lately to assist my decision-making process and also my ability to connect to that loving guidance that surrounds me and us all. I only wish that this guidance came in the form of a loud-speaker or giant signposts; it is a subtle, peaceful, quiet call to attention…. so the true work is up to us.
If Family Gathering calls to you:
If this remedy calls you to you please fill in the contact form below and follow your souls nudge to take this remedy.
My amazing family, the more we allow ourselves to shine the more we all shine together.
“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
― Brené Brown